When Aliko Dangote’s daughter married, her bride price was ₦500,000. Please fact-check me. And the wedding ceremony itself was modest and respectable and demonstrated the moderation that can only come from a highly developed culture.
You are going to marry a woman whose parents live in an uncompleted building in a village, and they are asking you to bring ₦3,000,000 and fulfil a long list of demands as bride price? Reason the matter, my friend.
As a man, if you are getting married anywhere in Africa, and your in-laws are demanding drinks like Martell VSOP and XO, designer wear, foreign exchange and expensive jewellery, just know that that is not a customary or traditional marriage. That is modern-day extortion by criminally minded people, and it is in your best interest to rethink that marriage.
A broken engagement is better than being entrapped by heartless Industrial Money Obtainers. Whatever they are asking you to pay is just a down payment. If you marry that girl, they will squeeze the life out of you with their demands. If someone dies, you pay. Someone is born, you pay. When someone starts school, you must shake your body. You are not an in-law. You are an in-money, and you will not have harmony.
Our ancestors were not that greedy. And the items they are demanding from you are not African items. They are foreign. Mostly from Europe. And, therefore, could not have been part of any native law and custom. These are just opportunists trying to use you for poverty alleviation.
African bride price list should not be more than a reasonable amount of money, and then things like kola nut, livestock, palm oil and agricultural produce, and in the Ghana area, gold (because gold has always been abundant in precolonial Ghana).
Ask yourself this question. If truly the bride price in their custom is running into millions, how come the bride’s parents live in a rented house or modest uncompleted building? They ought to be wealthy.
The truth is that the father married her mother with ₦5, and now they want you to marry their daughter with ₦3,000,000. To them, they are negotiating a business, not a marriage.
If this were a virgin, then perhaps ₦3,000,000 could be demanded. But ₦3,000,000 bride price for a girl that was disvirgined with urgent ₦2k? Tufiakwa!
Do not be too desperate to marry that you do not see the trap you are entering and the alternatives at your fingertips. You are a successful young man. Your type is rare. There are more beautiful young women than there are successful young men. Sit back. Take your time and marry where you will have peace, not where your in-laws want a piece of your wealth!
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